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Why cant my boyfriend/ girlfriend have sex like that?

Lets take the time to clear up some of the differences between porn sex and real sex- at least from what I have experienced.

1. You are not going to come across every man in your life you have sex with and he have a 10 inch dick! Now that would be amazing, but not realistic; and does size always matter or is it more important that he knows how to use what he was blessed with?
2. Anal is not always on the menu! Just because you just watched a clip all about anal does not mean that in real life 30+ minutes of anal is enjoyable. I have learned this from shooting and a few DP shoots. You dont go the whole time just balls to the wall and dick in ass. You might shoot about 5-6 minutes then change positions and relax for a second. "This is what having a great editor is for!" And fellas if you want your girl to try anal dont just dive in thinking it's going to feel great. Ease into it, lube is your friend, make sure she is fully relaxed and not nervous and tense. Never force it!  Once you're in and she is nice relaxed thats when you can channel your inner porn star and go to town. Hopefully it's pleasure for both of you. Oh and anal usually comes with a mess. Yes in porn we use enemas but at home with real sex yall aren't going to stop and take the time for that. "Have a towel near by" . And never make her feel uncomfortable when it happens, your dick is in her butt! Things are meant to come out not in.
3. Your girlfriend/wife is not going to look like a pornstar (unless she is just blessed with an amazing body). She might have an amazing ass and boobs, but trust me most top porn stars you see in clips have had some type of fat transfer, breast done/lifted, botox, waist sucked, and make up artist touching up through out the scene. Nobody is perfect, you know? Porn stars get paid topped dollar to stay looking amazing and camera ready. I think the most awesome aspect of rea; sex is overlooking the fact that you're not perfect, and appreciating the beauty you have otherwise. The fact is both male, female bodies are flawed in real life.
4. Sex is alot more emotional than in porn films. There is real passion involved and its not all about moaning and groaning. When filming you make sure that you sound great on camera and that you have the right angle when having sex. That does not apply in real life, no one is watching you to care if you moan sexy or if they can see the money shot.
5. Most woman don't orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. In porn, yes woman do this thing called "faking an orgasm" and sadly alot of guys dont catch on to that. So when they are having real sex they just wanna dive in and fuck. For a typical woman to orgasm you will need to stimulate their clitoris, nipples, and other goods. Most porn clips dont show this part happening. That is what the fluffler on set usually handles. Keepigng the guys hard in between breaks or position changes and keeping the women wet. Sometimes after I shoot a scene I never came during the shoot so I will have to play with a toy afterwards just to get off.
6. Most women don't squirt!! Only about 6% of women squirt on a regular basis, and in order for that to happen you have to be with someone who knows how to stimulate your g-spot. If you dont have a squirting partner, dont feel bad. I have yet to squirt myself and that is the top request I receive for my videos. Most women in porn are either peeing or they stop in between the scene use a douche to fill up their vagina with water and then push that out to look like they are squirting. It looks great on film but is far from real.
7. Real sex can be gross & awkward-Lets face it sex is sweaty, smelly, and pretty gross at times. There can be farting, queefing, and other weird things that happen from time to time. In porn you have a great editor take all that out, and you take breaks, reposition, and touch up make up.
8. Giant orgies aren't the norm-Gang bangs or group sex scenes set some men up to think that most women want to be with another female or have multiple dicks at once. With real sex this may be something you try once but not a life style for everyone. The fact is most men wont share their partner. And most women are to shy or afraid to try being with another woman. So unless you are part of a swingers club or have an open lifestyle- take group sex and gangbangs off your bucketlist.
9. In real life women don't respond to degrading pick up lines. Most lines in porn or film titles have whore, slut, bitch or some other degrading words in them. Trust me most women dont get turned on by hearing "You're a dirty little slut". Now some do and women do like to talk dirty t times but nt to the extent that porn promotes. This is why alot of porn companies are producing made for female porn. This just means more appealing and sexy rather than degrading.
10. Lastly, Real sex does not last that long! Most guys last an average of 15 minutes or less of vigorous sex, before they orgasm or get tired. Pornstars take many different supplements sometimes to be able to stay hard and shoot multiple scenes in a day. And no the men do not always cum! I have shot a scene that took all day and we had to come back that night to film the "pop shot" after he jacked off. Most porn is put out in clips not 10-15 minutes. If  it is 20 or more it was probably filmed to put on a dvd.

Once again I'm just giving some insight from my personal life of sex compared to my porn life, and what guys have asked me or assumed. If you have anything to add or any questions please feel free to comment! I'm always open to answering question's.

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